Embrace Security + Connection

Attachment Therapist

In Santa Barbara and online across California

Have you struggled with fully connecting?

"I’m always worried my partner will leave me..."

"I need my space; I feel suffocated when people get too close..."

"I can’t help but overthink everything they say..."

"Relationships just feel too risky; it’s safer to stay alone..."

Insecure attachment develops when someone doesn’t feel consistently loved or supported in childhood, leading to uncertainty and anxiety in relationships.

This can show up in two main ways: anxious attachment, where you constantly worry about being abandoned and seek reassurance, and avoidant attachment, where you keep people at a distance to protect yourself from potential hurt.

In daily life, those with anxious attachment may overanalyze their partner’s behavior, fearing they’ll leave, while those with avoidant attachment may feel uncomfortable with closeness and withdraw when things get too intimate.

Attachment therapy can help you understand these patterns and learn new ways to relate to others.

Through this process, you’ll develop skills for managing your emotions and communicating effectively, ultimately building trust in yourself and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

How would it feel to find ease in relationships?

You’d gain control over your emotions, feel confident expressing your needs, and build healthier connections. This would bring calm and security to your daily life, allowing you to embrace new relationships and opportunities without past fears. Ultimately, you’d feel more aligned with yourself, leading to deeper, more fulfilling connections and a satisfying life.

Therapy for attachment can help you:

  • Gain a deeper understanding of yourself, leading to more authentic connections and a fulfilling life

  • Learn skills that help you manage challenges in relationships

  • Identify and communicate your needs more effectively

  • Feel more at ease in your relationships

  • Strengthen self-worth, helping you value yourself and your needs in relationships

Attachment therapy for…

ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT

AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT

PEOPLE PLEASING

DIFFICULTY WITH VULNERABILITY

OVERANALYZING RELATIONSHIPS

NEED FOR REASSURANCE

DIFFICULTY TRUSTING SELF

LOW SELF-WORTH

FEAR OF ABANDONMENT

You don’t have to feel disconnected anymore.

In therapy, we’ll take a closer look at where your insecurities in relationships come from and how they affect your daily life. As we uncover these patterns together, we’ll work on practical skills to help you manage your emotions, communicate openly, and trust both yourself and others. Together, we’ll equip you with the skills to foster a greater sense of security and confidence, allowing for healthier, more balanced connections.

Find ease in your relationships.